Tag: be gentle
Just a quick note to apologize for not getting this out on the day celebrated as Father’s Day! But if you are a dad, every day is Father’s Day, we just get special recognition on this day.
A few notes on what it means to be a parent and a father.
- It is important to set a good example as a father and to be a parent rather than a friend. That day will come. Even so, I am not sure being a friend is as important as being a father.
- Teaching responsibility is very important, including the little things that can mean so much;
- Teaching children about choices is more important, along with the consequences of bad choices;
- Learning about the consequences of actions is important also, but it is wise to teach about our part of any situation – it is easy to play the victim, but it is difficult to stop, look and see what part i had to do with anything – it teaches the following -
- Accountability – i didn’t do it, it wasn’t my fault – perhaps, but in most cases, we had some part to play – like choosing to hang with that group, etc…
- God sometimes does things that make no sense – and it is difficult to try to figure God out, so don’t – just look to God for help;
- Teach them about spirituality, worship and Faith – these things will get one through the good and bad times;
- Love your children – I love both my kids and I let them know it by saying “I Love You!”;
- Being a man does not mean not showing emotion – it means knowing when to show emotion;
- Be gentle when they do wrong – yelling is not telling, telling is not teaching and teaching takes patience; and
- learn to Encourage them and impart the need to dream and be daring, enjoy life and live free…the world has enough rules in place – and there will be plenty of people to knock us down – teach them that it is not the end but a beginning;
- Teach them to stand up for themselves and not be bullies but to help and protect the weaker ones – this will go a long way….
I am learning as I go, I am not a perfect person nor the perfect dad – but my kids love me (for now, anyway) and I love them. I do the best I can and I often fail – but I do not give up and I always go to God for help…
These little things have changed my life and I often look back on my life and thank God for my dad and granddad. Some where not as fortunate as I and have still become good parents.
I just wish you all well and patience with our children – they are our future. Teach them to love and to give and the world will be a better place – I am sure of it.
Take care, God Bless and Cool Runnings, mon! Michael Arellano