If they Gossip to you – they will Gossip about you! – Old Spanish proverb
Recently we received a phone call from a very concerned person who was just fed-up by the Gossip and envy that circles around our community.
To hear that we happen to be the topic of this mess is sad, I have not been able to understand why it is that people who want to be a part of the community and portray themselves as business people can be so fake.
The way I see it is if you are true to your heart and yourself then be a good steward to God and others, there is no need for You to talk about others and to find ways to ruin ones reputation.
All you are doing in the long run is hurting yourself, your partners, you may not know who you may be gossiping too and they may not like what they hear and it just puts a bad taste and thoughts in ones mind.
I thank God for giving me the heart he has given me, yes we all have at some point been taken advantage of and hurt in one way or another but I never hold it against them I just pray for them and ask God to help me forgive them.
And when I happen to run into these people I hold my head up high and treat them with respect like I always have.
You will never hear me talk about anyone, unless I get asked I will find a way to cut the conversation short and move on.
I stay away from those who are negative and have nothing better to do but complain.
I sometimes find myself shying away from Facebook especially when you read others that post complaints about certain things or certain people, this to me is so high school not even then did I have time for that.
We work hard to get where we are at, and it is not about me, it is about what I can do to help make our community stronger and be better steward to others, especially the younger generation.
In today’s society times can be hard, but if we work together and get along we can built that bridge and those of us with great minds who only think about how to make our goals and dreams come true can accomplish what we have worked so hard for.
There should be no need to talk about others, what have they done to you, other than just befriend you.
Where does the jealousy and envy fit in all this and at what point does it stop?
Find happiness in yourself and look at all the great qualities that you have.
Respect yourself first so that you may learn to respect others and not have to find a need to talk about them, especially when they have done nothing to you and for those that have shame on you.
I ask myself why do people behave in this manor, I take every day one day at a time I am happy for those that continue to succeed, and for those that want to succeed.
I wake up every morning and Thank God for all my blessings even for the things that he has taken away, I never question it I always know that he had a reason and his plan for me ahead are much greater.
He has removed those that I thought were true friends, when I befriended them and really cared about them.
People will come to you when they see that you have a lot to offer for their benefit, but when they no longer need you that’s when they start to gossip.
As I said before no one is perfect in this world I know I am not and I have made my mistakes, and sometimes that can just be by helping others that do not appreciate you.
I try and stay away from the party scene not that I may think I am too good but merely for the fact that this is why.
I am always careful as to where we go and who we surround ourselves with, I enjoy being around well rounded people that are mature and speak with great conversation of importance.
God has brought wonderful people into our life this past year, Michael and I have been blessed with a circle of friends with true influence and we share that with each other.
We are always too busy with our own life and our families that the thought of gossiping never even crosses our mind. But when we hear what is or was said about us brings tears to my eyes and sadness to my heart.
If you happen to be reading my article and this may be you just know this that I care about you and I am praying for you all I ask is that you please leave us out of your conversation or anyone else you may feel this way about.
In the long run God sees what one does and he will come back and remind you in his time, I just don’t want you to be the one to have to ask why me. Because I know that I will never have to ask that question to God.
There is a great saying from Lady Bird Johnson that Michael has taught me:
Small minds talk about people
Average minds talk about events and
Great Minds talk about Ideas
We live by the Great Minds. You should too!
God has given us all great minds so let’s learn to use it and use it with respect and dignity.
So if you plan to gossip about someone who has no clue of your intentions, you may want to think twice about it because someday you may need to reach out to that person and that door may be shut tight.
And then you will know that you could have had a real friend with great influence and now it’s too late.
In closing I want to send a Huge Thank You and a Big hug to all who supported me at my fundraiser it really meant a lot to me and you know you can count on me to be there for you.
I want to Especially thank Michael Arellano who has always been there for me and when I put myself in certain situations not meaning too he has always been there to help me and bail me out. I pray that someday God will reward me so that I may in return and pay back all that he has done for me.
These are things that I never or would never dream of forgetting those who have been there for me and Michael is that person. I try to never look back on the many times that I was taken advantage of - I just thank God that he allowed me to help when I could.
So again Thank You to everyone may you find blessings in those that you care about and care about you, respect each other with kindness and never bring out the anger it only crushes ones heart.
Gossip is evil and the enemy is always there! but God is the strong one.
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“Walk By Faith and Not By Sight” – Brandy Lopez